STEP 12 of 12: Your Daily Goal Session!
This is one of the most important components of this entire online course, so pay attention, and do it! I have had the greatest success in my life when I take the time each night before bed and sit down with a pen and paper and do two main things:
1. Evaluate Your Current Day's Results
2. Plan out what you want to Accomplish Tomorrow
It's that simple. When you make this a routine, you will become more aware of your daily progress, what's working, what's not and how to improve it. This is also a great time to incorporate some imagery for difficult situations you plan on facing for the next day.
For the first part, evaluating how your current day went, it makes sense to take your goals from the previous night, and examine them. What did you accomplish? What didn't get done? If something didn't go the way you wanted it to, why? And what can you do the next time that will get you a result that's more in line with your overall goals and contributes to building your confidence in that particular area? This is a great chance to reflect and process what happened throughout the day, and gain awareness as to what you can try differently the next day to make progress in an area that still isn't where you want it to be.
For the next day's goals, usually the first thing to do, is copy over anything that you weren't satisfied with from the current day, along with writing down next to it, what you can do differently this time that will help you achieve a result closer to what you ultimate goal is. Remember, building self-confidence is not an overnight task. It takes time, and you must build upon experience after experience to create a new belief within you. The tools and techniques mentioned earlier, such as imagery, mock walk-throughs, and affirmations, can all help advance those new beliefs within you either to a greater degree or quicker than they would if you just hope things will happen. That's not good enough, because chances are you'll just slip right back into your old habits. Keep in mind that your current habits have likely taken years and years to develop, so you can't expect a whole new mentality to set in a few days. Even once you have begun making changes and building that confidence, you must maintain it on a regular basis.
Get out a blank notebook. If you don't have one, plan to go buy one the next time you're at the store. For now, you can start on several blank pieces of paper and staple them together. In this notebook, each night before bed, write down your goals for the next day and evaluate them the following night. Use this time, say 15 minutes every day, to practice imagery for tomorrow's tough situations on your list. Having this daily goal session is the glue that will cause things to stick. You've got to maintain and build upon this daily in order to create lasting change. If you don't do it, you'll likely fall back into your old patterns and act out of habit. If you want self-confidence, you need to build it over time. Use this time every day to evaluate and prepare yourself with the ideas and techniques that have been presented. I wish you all the best on your journey to becoming a more self-confident you!