STEP 1 of 12: What Is Self-Confidence?
The Merriam Webster's dictionary definition of self-confidence is: "Confidence in oneself and in one's powers and abilities." Since that definition has the word confidence within it, we should also look that up also to gain a better understanding. The definition of confidence then states: "A feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances." So by putting that all together we can come up with something like this in layman's terms, which makes a little bit more sense. So here it is! Generally speaking, self-Confidence is: A feeling or belief in your powers and abilities.
Those very feelings and beliefs about ourselves can have a clear and direct impact on our outward actions. So when we doubt ourselves and don’t feel a strong belief in any area, we will then be likely to experience a result that responds in line with our inward beliefs in that area. In other words, it all starts on the inside! If you want to appear more self-confident in giving a public speech, then you can work extremely hard on your posture, voice tone, and trying not to skip a line or sound overly nervous, or you can get right to the core of what's causing you to believe that you shouldn't be self-confident about public speaking. If you solve or alter your inward beliefs about your ability to give public speeches, then naturally you will begin to then speak in a more confident way. It all comes down to belief, and there are a number of previous experiences and observations our brain draws upon to formulate what we should believe about ourselves and why. Hopefully this information will help you to be able to figure out what you believe about yourself and help you discover ways to rearrange and redefine those limiting beliefs that are resulting in a display of poorer self-confidence in your actions.
Changing those beliefs about our own abilities is not always the easiest thing to do, but I believe it is the most empowering! If you have a really bad infection, there's no sense in continuing to put bandages over the infected wound day after day. You’ll continue to change the bandage day after day while the infection continues to spread into other areas! Other areas of your life may begin to suffer on some level even if they aren’t directly related the areas in which you lack the most self-confidence. Eventually, you’ll exert much more effort on trying new bandages than it would take to treat the actual infection itself. Treat the actual infection, and then you don't need bandages to cover up the growing problem!
Like most major wounds though, there will likely be scars, so consistent, daily work will still need to be done in order to maintain those new empowering beliefs about yourself! This isn't something that generally changes overnight. Though, there will be major breakthroughs and turning points, it usually takes a lot of time, work, and tools to ingrain a new set of beliefs about yourself to the point where you actually believe them to be true and then express the resulting self-confidence consistently in everyday life. The rest of this online course should help provide you with some techniques and ideas that can help you work daily towards developing, sustaining, and then growing more confident in those new beliefs! Before we get into directly working with those techniques though, I want to explain to you just how important those inward beliefs are to creating more self-confident actions. To do this, let’s take a look at the “Placebo Effect.”